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How to Reach Your Goals
The following exercise is based on the work of self-help teacher Tony Robbins.
So it’s a New Year. If you’re like most people, you’ve probably set some new goals that you’re determined to accomplish. I recently heard it said that only around ten percent of people who set new year’s resolutions actually achieve them. This means that for every hundred people who set goals, only ten percent actually reach them! This statistic is too low for my tastes so I’m going to give you a method that will increase the odds of achieving the goals you set for this year.
The key to achieving a goal is to associate as much pleasure as you can to achieving the goal while linking as much pain as you can to not achieving it This will cause your subconscious, which controls things like your habits and beliefs, to work as hard as it can to bring your desired result about as one of the functions of your subconscious is to avoid pain while seeking pleasure. It’s been said that more than 90% of what a person does each day is subconscious; you put your pants on the same way every day, you drive to work the same way every day, you brush your teeth the same way every day, so it’s very important that your subconscious is working to create the life you desire. The method I am going to outline will be equivalent to setting your subconscious on autopilot for your success.
Here is what you do. First, if you haven’t already done so, set aside some time and list all of the goals that you would like to accomplish for 2014. A goal is something that can be measured so make sure that your goals are quantifiable. If one of your goals is to earn $10.000 more by the end of the year, you’ll be able to measure that at the end of 2014. Writing a goal like “I want to feel better” is a wish or good idea, but is not a goal. After your goals are written, I want you to grab a pen and paper and write out the following:
1) “What will it cost me if I don’t reach my goals?” After you write that question out, I want you to spend two-three minutes writing non-stop, as fast as you can, all of the pain, frustration, and costs that you will incur as a result of not reaching your goals. This is going to associate for your subconscious massive amounts of pain to not achieving your goals. Since your subconscious does not want to feel pain, it will go to work to create what you desire.
By the way. I actually set a timer for two or three minutes as I write out the answers to this question and the other questions that come after this. You want to give yourself as many compelling reasons to achieve your goals as possible so the more you write, the more powerful this exercise will be.
2) “What is the pleasure I’ll receive by reaching my goals?” Spend two to three minutes writing out all of the pleasure you’ll receive by reaching your goals. Maybe you’ll be in better shape, have more money, be able to take that trip you’ve always wanted, meet your dream partner, have more confidence, the sky is the limit. With this exercise, you’re linking up massive amounts of pleasure to achieving your goals, so you want to give yourself as many reasons as possible to achieve them. The more you write, the more powerful this exercise will be.
3) Next, spend two to three minutes answering the following question; “Why am I absolutely committed to achieving my goals?” List as many reasons as possible as to why you are absolutely committed to achieving your goals. Maybe your spouse won’t have to work so hard, maybe you’ll have that extra money to send your kids to school, maybe you’ll be in better shape and feel better about yourself. Whatever the reasons are, list them!
4) Lastly, spend a few minutes every day seeing your goals as complete. Your subconscious cannot tell the difference between what’s real and what’s false, so if you start showing it images of you successful and achieving your goals, it’s going to see that as reality and will go to work to create that just as hard as it was working to create your current reality. Your subconscious is a goal-oriented machine. It will work to create any images you show it, so spend a few minutes every day as seeing your goals as complete.
These exercises are going to link up massive amounts of pain to not achieving your goals and massive amounts of pleasure to achieving them. This is the difference as to why most people don’t achieve their New Year’s resolutions and why only a select few do. The difference is the amount of leverage that those who successfully achieve goals use. They consciously or subconsciously have associated massive amounts of pain to not achieving their goals and massive amounts of pleasure to achieving them. Once you do this, it’s as if you’ve programmed your subconscious for success. Combine this with daily visualization and you have a recipe for creating miracles in your life.
By the way, this same process works for any habits that you would like to change. If you would like to change a habit, simply ask yourself the same questions and answer the questions for two to three minutes each; “What is the pain I feel from doing (or not doing) this habit?” “What is the pleasure I’ll feel from doing (or not doing this habit)?” “Why am I committed to doing (or not doing) this habit?”
For instance, if you would like to exercise more, you could say; “What is the pain I’ll feel from not doing this habit?” And list all of the pain you’d feel from not exercising. You could list that you won’t have as much energy, you’ll be carrying excess weight, and will have to eat more. You could then ask “What is the pleasure I’ll feel from doing this habit?” And list all of the pleasure you’d get from exercising such as feeling great, looking better, having more energy, and having to sleep less. You would then ask; “Why am I committed to exercising?” And list all of the reasons you’re committed to exercising such as seeing your kids grow up, setting a good example for them, and feeling good about yourself.
Here’s to your successful 2014!